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Victims of Domestic Violence in Lake County Need our Help.

October 10, 2017
Tami Lewis

October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month. In Lake County alone, 58 people per day are affected by domestic violence, and a full half of all police calls result from Domestic Violence. Furthermore, 1 in 5 women who are admitted to the ER are admitted for domestic violance related issues.  According to The National Domestic Violence Hotline, an average of 24 people per minute are victims of physical violence, rape or stalking by an intimate partner. The American Society for the Positive Care of Children reports that 1 in 4 women and 1 in 7 men have suffered from domestic violence by an intimate partner. 

According to The National Domestic Violence Hotline, domestic violence doesn't discriminate. Domestic violence affects people regardless of their socioeconomic background,education, age, race, sexual orientation, religion or gendor.  It  happens to people who are married, living together or who are dating. Anyone can be a victim or a perpetrator. 

Behaviors associated with domestic violence include those that physically harm, create fear, prevent a person from doing what they wish or forcing them to behave in ways they do not want. This includes the use of sexual and physical abuse, threats and intimidation, emotional abuse and economic deprivation. Different forms of domestic violence and abuse can occur at once within the same relationship.

At United Way of Lake County we fight for the health, education and income of our community's most vulnerable, which includes victims suffering from domestic violence. Last year alone, 1,124 victims benefited from refuge and care due to the programs we help support. Thousands more received counseling and services through additional community programs we help service as well.

Lifeline's 2-1-1 Help Hotline (non-emergency)

Lifeline's 2-1-1 is a free and confidential service that we help support. It connects people in Lake County to essential health and human services 24/7. You can dial 2-1-1 toll-free from nearly any phone in Lake County to speak confidentially with an information and referral specialist who can help you find answers to a wide range of questions and connect you with area resources that may be able to offer assistance.   You can also search for health and human service programs on their website

Lifeline's 2-1-1 service is FREE and it's available 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. If dialing from a cell phone, depending on where you are geographically located when you make the call, you may reach another county's 2-1-1 service. If this is the case, be sure to ask if you are speaking with the Lake County 2-1-1. If not, you can ask to be transferred to Lake County's 2-1-1. Or, you can simply call Lake County's 2-1-1 office by dialing them direct at 440.639.4420.

It's important to note that 2-1-1 is NOT an emergency line. If you have an emergency - a situation that requires police, fire or medical personnel, for instance - you should call 9-1-1 immediately.
 

Forbe's House Domestic Violence Shelter

Forbes House is another one of our partner agencies whose domestic violence shelter we shelp support. They are the only domestic violence shelter in Lake County, Ohio and their non-disclosed location provides an ideal place for survivors in Northeast Ohio to heal from the trauma of abuse and rebuild their lives. Clients of Forbes House are matched with government and non-profit agencies in the area to find careers and long-term, safe housing. 

All services of Forbes House are provided free of charge and they have a 24/7 helpline. For help any time of day, every day of the year, Forbe's House can be reached at 440-357-1018 where trained advocates accept calls. Forbe's House legal advocates work to support victims of crimes in Lake County's courts. They also provide counseling for anyone who has been affected by domestic violence.


Domestic Abuse Warning Signs

According to The National Domestic Abuse Hotline, it isn't always easy at the start of a relationship to be able to tell if it will become abusive. In fact, many abusive partners may seem absolutely normal in a relationship's early states. Behaviors that are controlling or possessive in nature don't always just appear one day. Rather, these behaviors emerge and intesify as the relationship progresses. It's important to recognize that domestic violence doesn't look the same in every relationship because every relationship is different. But one thing most abusive relationships have in common is that the abuser does many different kinds of things to gain power and control over their partner. 

Some of the signs of an abusive relationship include a partner who:

  • Tells you that you can never do anything right
  • Shows extreme jealousy of your friends and time spent away
  • Keeps you or discourages you from seeing friends or family members
  • Insults, demeans or shames you with put-downs
  • Controls every penny spent in the household
  • Takes your money or refuses to give you money for necessary expenses
  • Looks at you or acts in ways that scare you
  • Controls who you see, where you go, or what you do
  • Prevents you from making your own decisions
  • Tells you that you are a bad parent or threatens to harm or take away your children
  • Prevents you from working or attending school
  • Destroys your property or threatens to hurt or kill your pets
  • Intimidates you with guns, knives or other weapons
  • Pressures you to have sex when you don’t want to or do things sexually you’re not comfortable with
  • Pressures you to use drugs or alcohol

If you or a loved one is in immediate danger, call 9-1-1. In Lake County, Ohio, you can also call 2-1-1 or visit Lifeline's 2-1-1, which can help domestic violence victims find resources and services in Lake County, such as safe housing, health care, employment assistance and childcare.  Forbe's House is also available to help anytime, 24/7 at 440-357-1018.

 


 

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5 Tips for a Smooth Back to School Transition from United Way of Lake County

August 17, 2017

Earlier sunsets, cooler mornings, and singing cicadas are the telltale clues that the back to school season is just around the corner. United Way of Lake County believes every child deserves a strong start in life. Below are five tips to help ensure a smooth transition back to school:

1.  Forms from School:  Check in with your child's school to see which forms need to be filled out and returned. Health forms may need to be signed by doctors, emergency contact information should be updated, school lunch preferences need documented, and any allergies need noted. These are all essential details schools need information about for the health and safety of children.

2.  Clothes:  Most kids grow over the summer so it's important to check and see which clothes still fit and what necessities need replaced. Keep your eyes and ears open because many retail outlets have back to school sales or tax free shopping days/weeks. If your child is required to wear a uniform, it's a good idea to check with your school to see if they have a "uniform swap," which is a really affordable way to get clothes that fit.

3.  School Supplies:  School supply lists seem to grow year after year so be sure to check your school's website to see the supply list and make sure you have everthing your child needs to be successful. It's always a good idea to let your child pick out their own supplies because it helps them feel a sense of control and ownership, which can help reduce any back to school anxiety.

4.  Bedtimes:  Begin reiging in the late summer bedtimes to get your child's nightime routine back on track. School age children should be getting about 10 hours of sleep per night in order to enjoy optimal concentration during the school day.

5.  Soothing Nervousness:  Returning back to school is scary for many children and nervousness and jitters are a real thing that can feel overwhelming to a child. They are meeting new teachers, getting reacquanted with classmates and meeting new ones as well, all the while trying to adjust to a new routine and expanded expectations of school performance. It's a lot to handle for a child. Your kind and gentle words of encouragement can help ease the stress of the entire back to school experience for your child.

At United Way of Lake County we believe that communities are successful when everyone's potential for success is optimized, especially that of children.